Today's deep thoughts: Perfectly Nice Girls

From Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, by Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D. I've read this book at least three times now. I have also given it as a gift, and I got my own copy signed by the author, who is a fellow USC alum.

Mistake 44

Striving for Perfection

Having been made to believe we're totally flawed, imperfect beings, women overcompensate by striving for perfection. Intellectually we know it's impossible, but emotionally we go there every time we feel insecure or less than competent. What a waste of time and energy! We would be much better off using the time we spend perfecting already good work products or relationships on new and creative endeavors.

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  • Consciously reduce the amount of time you work on any given day or spend on any one piece of work.

  • Strive for 80 percent perfection. The difference between 80 percent and 100 percent won't be noticed by most people but will buy you more time to shift to other important tasks.

  • Relinquish the need to be seen as perfect and settle for being viewed as human. After all, you are a human being, not a human doing.

Like many other deep thoughts I post, this is an example of my giving very good advice, but like Alice, I very seldom follow it. I doubt I will ever get my perfectionism under control. But you readers should!